Esther modeled a kind winsomeness, regardless of her surroundings.
And Esther found favor in the eyes of all who saw her. So Esther was taken to King Ahasuerus to his royal palace in the tenth month which is the month Tebeth, in the seventh year of his reign. The king loved Esther more than all the women, and she found favor and kindness with him more than all the virgins, so that he set the royal crown on her head and made her queen instead of Vashti.
Clearly, Esther had something about her that caused everyone to “favor” her, from the king to the women in the harem who were competing against her for his attention and affections. I think she must have had a winsomeness about her. Webster says winsomeness is “being pleasant, delightful, attractive in a sweet, engaging way.” A person who is winsome draws you to him or to her. We are intrigued by that person’s charming and gracious spirit.
In the past, I have shared the traits of Esther with my own beloved daughters, hoping that they will not only think about them but cultivate them. And it’s with the same sense of care that I share these things with you, because I personally believe they are more needed than ever in our environment of insecurity and sensuality.